My kids are UTD on all their shots!

My kids are UTD on all their shots!

So, for the most part, I am an attachment parent.  Yes, I used an epidural during both births.  I my defense, I did feel the pain of labor.  I got to 7cm with DD1 and 9.5 cm with DD1, but that was enough for me. Epidural made me more comfortable and there were no complications.

I am m part of an AP group and many of them are anti-vax and intactavists (anti circumcision).  It is strange, b/c many of these moms are Navy wives and G-d only knows what types of bugs their husbands will bring home after their deployment.

Anyway, one mom who's son has FPIES wants to find a sick kid to infect her 10 month old infant.  She says "because of his allergies, he cannot get the vax" and she wants him to get the "natural immunity"  GAH!  I just want to scream.  I am usually very quiet and I do not post my opinion on the touchy subjects, but when they started talking about a Pox Party, I had to step in.
Here is my comment:

"I totally understand why you would not want to give your son the vax right now. Evelyn was delayed withe several of her shots because of her allergies (not nearly as severe as his). But this is what goes on my my head. Is there any other childhood illness that we deliberately infect our children with? Why do we do this with chicken pox? Also, I would not want to infect a small child that does not understand what is going on and why they feel like poo and why they are so itchy and yet they can't scratch. By getting infected, you have no idea what the severity of the virus they will get. Will they have complications? Will they get the pox in their eyes, in their mouth, on their penis, in their vagina, in their anus ? Yes, 90% of kids are exposed to this virus before the age of 10, but, personally, I think it is cruel and actually 'anti-AP' to deliberately infect our children with any disease."

Did I say to much.  I mean, I AM pro-vax.  I like the Sears delayed schedule, but still, all vax by age 2.  I want my kids to go to a public school. We might end up in China or Guam or somewhere else that I cannot even think of.  We are already in Hawaii and there are so many people here from Asia that I have no idea what my kids are being exposed to.  

How to fart a baby.




By request, I am posting this video.  I had taken an Itsy Bitsy Yoga class back when Iliana was around 8 months old.  Wow, I wish I had taken it when she was younger, but the skills that I learned in that class were heaven-sent.  "Dinosaur walk" darn near killed my quads, but at 2am after a few hours of screaming, it would calm the savage beast.  But, farting the baby was the best thing I ever learned and I hope that you can learn from it too!

Hugs,

leslie

Wow, I am a parent.

I knew it would happen.  I heard about it from other parents, but it just happened to me and I want to write about it while it was still fresh in my memory.

Today, at dinner, Iliana was singing her ABC's and then she changed the words.  "A B C D Pappy" is what she started singing and every time she sang it, Evelyn thought that was too funny. So, Iliana just kept singing the same line, over and over again and they both were giggling at the table.  I am looking at them, I have no idea what is so funny.  Then I start laughing, because that is what I thought I was supposed to be doing.  Then, they started laughing even louder...this time AT ME!  I just don't get it.  What was so funny?  Then it dawned on me...I am a different generation than these girls.  They are my daughters, not my peers.  I know there will be many more moments like this one, and I hope that I can be a part of them, even if it is from the outside.

Random Thoughts

I am so tired.  Sleep does not seem to help my exhaustion.  I am lonely.  I wish I had someone to talk to at night.  Just six more months until I have a partner again. I have no idea what things will be like when he returns.  Phone calls seem pretty sad now.  There is never much to talk about.  I never have anything to add to the conversation.  It is hard to listen because the girls are always--being girls. 

As much as I dislike being a single parent, I have gotten used to it.  It has been six months already.  He has been gone so much this past year.  A few weeks in January.  A few in March, a few in April, more in May.  I don't like it. Yes, it is good for his career.  But when is is my turn?  I love being Mom, but I miss being Leslie.  I miss being able to go dancing with girlfriends (or husband).  I miss just being able to eat dinner in front of the TV. I miss training in Tang Soo Do.  I miss photographing weddings and events and beautiful things out in the world.  Heck, I would like to be able to shower without my door open so I can let the bathroom get all steamy.  I like that. 

That is all for now.  Everyone is asleep and it is 9:30pm.  Time for bed.  Good night.

Hawaii? Yup. Hawaii.

So, we just got word of our transfer to Hawaii.  Not sure of any specifics yet, but we know it will not be until after July.  My husband is still in training and his program does not end until July 8, 2011.  But, wow, we are moving to Pearl Harbor, HI.  This is kind of really cool.  I am afraid for Hamlet though.  He might not do to well in the heat.  But, with proper A/C he should be fine.  Might not be able to move him until after October because of the heat.  We will deal with it.  I have so much to think about now. So much to do.  House has to be fixed up.  House has to be cleaned.  House has to be sold or rented.  Need to find a new house to live.  But, Hawaii. I guess it is such a romantic place.  At least in all the movies and photographs. I hope it is close to that.  Of course,  I grew up watching Magnum, P.I. so in my head, THAT is what I think Hawaii will be like.  Oh, wouldn't that be nice to have Tom Selleck to be my neighbor?  Or my house guest? 

Anyway, so after DH is done w/ his training, hopefully, we will take a family vacation.  Then, maybe have some time to be with each other before the big move.  That would be nice, right?

So, here are my other questions/concerns...
Will our family come and visit?  I guess we will see them about as often as we do now.
Can we afford housing there?  Looks like we will be spending about 50% more on housing than we do now.  But, I think we get COLA that should offset the money issues.
I hear the school system is a joke there.  Well, we will not be there for so many years that it will make a difference.  The girls and I will learn other ways.
Is there much of a Jewish community there?  I hear there is a synagogue on base. I guess that will be our best option.  I will miss the JCC and Iliana will miss her friends.  We will have to find some mommy groups.

Oh well, the wee one is awake and screaming.